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reached home not long ago.saw a scene that was pretty disturbing to me.sparked off some thots in me as well. was walking past a childcare centre that is located at my void deck. came across this grandfather around his 60s and a toddler aged at most 5 yrs old. i was walking slowly at that time, therefore i am able to catch a bit of their conversation.
Grandpa: "Grandma is sick and she is unable to pick you up today.Today, grandpa will pick you up, ok?
Girl: (starts whining) "I don't want you to pick me up. I want Mummy or grandma to pick me up."
Grandpa: "Today,grandma is sick. how can she pick you up when she is sick at home?Come along, be good, ok?tell me where you want to go. Grandpa will bring you there."
Girl: (squats down and whine louder) I don't want you.I don't want you to pick me up. Don't want!
By this time, i was too far away to hear what the grandfather was telling the child. But this incident sparked off 2 different things in my mind.
the first thing is that, aren't we like that many times? though we may not do it to our earthly parents or grandparents, but don't we do this to our Heavenly Father when we choose to disobey? I am not saying the part whereby the grandpa is picking the child part..but i am talking abt the stubborn-ness we have when we want to have it our own way - saying things that really hurts to our Heavenly Father.I really think that the grandpa is hurt by the child's words. I understand that the child is still young to know what she's saying, but still...or well...you know what i mean.
Second thing that came to my mind was the upbringing of kids nowadays. I think I am privileged enough to hear and see 3 different kinds of upbringings. First kind was the kind which I have had heard abt - My dad's generation. My grandma always tell me about how my dad was being "dealt with" when he was naughty. its either the cane or a tight slap across the cheeks. then it was my very own upbringing. I have my own share of caning and scolding as well. But i believe that it was not as bad as my dad's times. Lastly, its what I just witnessed. The soft way of talking sense, persuading the child and not using much of the cane.
"Spare the rod, Spoil the child."
Do you agree?As for me, I dont fully agree but yet I wont be one who spares the rod completely. It really difficult to handle child upbringing. What's the balance? Shall parents be harsh and strict and let the child live in "fear"? or shall parents be nice and use the soft way towards the kid and let the kid climb over your head? Is there really a balance between these 2 ends? I still do not know coz I still yet to have my kids. But will see...